Today I want to talk about an important topic, trauma.
Trauma is a response to a distressing event that overwhelms the mind and diminishes our sense of self and ability to express fully.
A friend and I came to a startling realization the role trauma plays in our lives and how little attention it gets in personal development. In personal development, there is so much talk about mindsets, attitudes, plans, purpose, goals, vision, and so on. However, none of that matters unless we address trauma. That's because...
Trauma Is Like a Steel Ball Attached to an Elastic Chain.
You can move forward, but the more you do, the tighter the chain gets, making each additional step difficult. At a certain point, it takes all the energy and will to move mere inches. The chain can be stretched only so far until it snaps you back to where you started.
The other scenario is that you simply spin in circles, from one pursuit to another, never getting far in any direction. You step toward one direction, and once the chain starts getting tense, you shift in another, and another, constantly distracted by different pursuits.
Everyone Experiences Trauma
You may not think this topic applies to you, but everyone has faced trauma to varying degrees, whether it’s from an overbearing parent, mean teacher, over-reactive boss, cruel bully, angry spouse, bad breakup, even physical injury.
In fact, one of the most traumatic event for a firstborn is a new sibling. Before the sibling, the firstborn received all the attention. Afterwards, it diminishes drastically, which is very distressing for the child.
Trauma Does Not Discriminate
More importantly, it affects everyone, no matter your age, gender, skin color, amount in your bank, or the country, town, or neighborhood you grew up.
In fact, trauma is relative. That means one person can experience the same level of trauma to a light event as another might to a severe event. If an individual grows up to a generally pleasant life, a slight change can elicit as much distress as something hostile.
If you’re feeling stuck in life, like you’re attached to a ball and chain, trauma might be the culprit. It’s an area that likely hasn’t been addressed.
Now, there are many ways to address trauma, some work, some don’t, some are done on your own, while others require the aid of others.
An effective place to start is to journal. The thing is, you might not know you have trauma or even from where it stems. What you can do is to start writing about where you are stuck or how you can’t move past a particular hurdle or get something you desire in life.
Then keep opening up about it.
Talk about your fears, apprehensions, or any other feelings that come up. Eventually, you’ll uncover some startling realizations.
What I and many have found is that...
Trauma Itself is NOT the Problem.
The problem stems from not expressing it, which over time, becomes a weight that is too much to shoulder. Journaling helps you express and get it out.
You’ll be surprised how lighter you feel and how easily you can make shifts when you do this.
Hope this has been helpful.
Friendly reminder, my new course Double Your Productivity in 30 Days is out. Please check it out, it’s available only one more week.
Until next time,